Isolation!

Have you ever been in a phase where isolation seems best to you? People say isolation will detoriate you but is that true? How can something deterioate you when that is the only thing helping you survive. I think it's a good therapy. You learn better about yourself when you are alone. You learn to deal with your emotions, to overcome your loneliness, the vaccum in your life, the guilt. The best kind of relationship is the one you have with yourself. Isolation is good as long as you are sure you are not going into depression or showing signs of self harm. You confine yourself in a room, talk to only 4-5 people who you are sure won't hurt you why? because you want to create your safe zone. is it wrong? NO. You are just looking out for yourself. You cry, you break down, you fight, you get angry and you get upset, these are your ways of venting out your emotions, it's not wrong, you are just hurt and you have suffered. 

Trust is an issue and so you fight more and you question their every sentence and call them up every five minutes just to ask if they are still there for you. You need assurances every now and then. Somebody said come out of your isolation you will feel better, your family will boost your confidence but what when family is the first thing you don't trust and want to stay a little aloof from, again I said aloof not run away from. We can try trusting the family but obviously it's gonna take awhile. Conclusion, It is OK, to want to trust only a few people and be with them only and stay stuck in a room, in your bed, with the laptop, with the music, not falling into trouble and just being yourself.

ISOLATION IS A GOOD THERAPY.

"Misandry"

How many of you know that something like misandry even exists? It is parallel in form to misogyny. the difference is misogyny is hatred of women and misandry is hatred of men. For some weird reason, even I have started hating a few not all men in my life. Seeing the women empowerment notion in today's world i wouldn't be surprised if misandry is spreading worldwide.
But the real question is why do we hate the opposite sex? For the same reason as we would hate any normal human being. They hurt us, they don't value our emotions right, they consider themselves superior and stronger.
Let me be a little more bold here, men flirting around what do they want in the end?(guess) it's just a three letter word. Do they really deserve respect? Second thing, Why should men pay for everything? How does his ego come in between if a girl pays for once?
Misandry is just as much of a thing as misogyny, but dismissing its existence isn't de facto proof of its existence

Love and relationships just not enough.

We idealize love. We see it as some lofty cure-all for all of life’s problems. Our movies and our stories and our history all celebrate it as life’s ultimate goal, the final solution for all of our pain and struggle. And because we idealize love, we overestimate it. As a result, our relationships pay a price.  Just because you fall in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a good partner for you to be with over the long term. It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who doesn’t treat us well, who makes us feel worse about ourselves, who doesn’t hold the same respect for us as we do for them, or who has such a dysfunctional life themselves that they threaten to bring us down with them. while love may make you feel better about your relationship problems, it doesn’t actually solve any of your relationship problems.

The roller coaster of emotions can be intoxicating, each high feeling even more important and more valid than the one before, but unless there’s a stable and practical foundation beneath your feet, that rising tide of emotion will eventually come and wash it all away.

Love is not always worth sacrificing yourself.  when it comes to sacrificing one’s self-respect, one’s dignity, one’s physical body, one’s ambitions and life purpose, just to be with someone, then that same love becomes problematic. A loving relationship is supposed to supplement our individual identity, not damage it or replace it. If we find ourselves in situations where we’re tolerating disrespectful or abusive behavior, then that’s essentially what we’re doing: we’re allowing our love to consume us and negate us, and if we’re not careful, it will leave us as a shell of the person we once were.

 Love is great. Love is necessary. Love is beautiful. But love is not enough. And like I said before falling in love is easy, staying is hard.

Turn the page, start fresh.

Life has a frequency that takes you to the top of the hill and then pushes you right away. There is a dark period and then there’s the shining bright period.  Everyone has a past but then there’s a past that will haunt you forever which makes you want to forget yourself completely and start fresh. I know its easier said than done. Have you ever experienced a time when shit hit the fan and you have to disappear?

How does one deal with such a situation? Well, maybe by starting with a clear mind. It’s so much more better than a cluttered one. As I read in ‘The Secret’, think about things you want rather than things you don’t want. According to the book, the universe works on the law of attraction, so like attracts like, with reference to your thoughts. To stop your life from sliding in reverse  as your spidey- sense loses that tingling feeling, start with forgetting your dark past completely. Even if it means giving up on your friends, social life, work place just whatever it takes.  When you decide to start fresh you’re about to embark on a serious life decision, many steps of which can’t be undone.

Starting fresh can be difficult with no friends to have your back all the time, maybe no work at the beginning and a screwed up family life but maintain your sanity, find comfort and continue to push on. You never know what the future holds.

For what it’s worth, it’s never too late to be whoever you  want to be. I hope you live a life you are proud of and if you find that you are not, I hope you have the strength to start over.

 When your life hit the rock bottom and you wish to just start it all over again-Pick a day, any day and declare it as your personal new year’s day, let go of the past, find new people with positive attitude to surround yourself with, consider your hobbies and work on them. It’s like you must break to grow.

Mafia Queens Of Mumbai

S. Hussain Zaidi, former investigative journalist worked on quite an intriguing book, which left a significant impact on me, 'Mafia Queens of Mumbai'. The book has 13 true stories of black marketeers, gharwalis, bade-gharwalis (brothel leaders) and trained assassins.
Stories of gangsters, especially if they are women are much more fascinating to write about than anything else since they are one in a million and it takes courage and all of your strength as a woman to stand against man in a world dominated by them. Let me introduce you to the queens who broke all traditional norms and entered the most feared zone - 'The Underworld'. In the words of Vishal Bhardwaj, let's figure out," Mumbai ki Queen kaun?".
               
                              

Let me start with a short post about my first queen -

Lallan Bhabhi, not much is known about the Bhabhi of Underworld, except about her famous arrest at Sewree Police Station, South Mumbai. This notorious queen must be the only woman who when arrested by the cops in the case of petrol adulteration, used her only opportunity of call to resume her criminal activities. Right under the cop's nose she made sure that she suffers no financial loss due to her arrest and called her aide to "shift her kitchen", by which she meant the stock that police had not raided upon yet. She called no relative or lawyer for help. she was one of the cogs in the petrol adulteration cartel.

Unfortunately, not much data is available about her except this famous incident.

Day 101 at Blogging

                           Being an amateur yet aspiring writer, the whole idea of starting a blog                           did excite me. Yet, the one question that terrorized me was, "What should                             my first post be about?"

I had been weighing my options between social issues that I encountered and taking things slow, by which I mean writing about Why am I Blogging publicly rather than keeping a personal journal. Well, the answer is simple I want to reach out to people, share and express views and opinions, shed a little too bright light on the issues of our society.(P.S.: in my definition of society animals are included)

                     “Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened.”       

                                                                                                                                        -Anatole France

Hence, for novice bloggers who are about to or who have been through the whole ordeal of deciding the first post. Let your first draft be 'The shitty draft'. Without thinking twice about the judgmental people sitting out there with wrinkled nose and glasses up their nose, write what you feel, write what you want to scream out to people and let the world know. As a blogger you have to share certain information and let day 1 at blogging be all about yourself. This is where i bring in my introductory blog:

                    

Time to give you a little insight on myself and let you follow my trail of thought. I am a girl (pffft!). I am a stubborn person( not declaring it as a proud thing) and a person with strong opinions but that in no way makes me self opinionated. I am perfectly capable of understanding others take on issues too. I have this abstruse  love for animals which is complex to even put in words. Good at playing around with words and being the grammar nazi (again not so proud), writing drew my attention. I hope my blog can make a difference, maybe not on a large scale but reading about incidents of animal cruelty, child abuse, thorns in a transgender's life, I am sure to make you stop and ponder over these things.

You may find no well researched blogs but these are my thoughts, this is my blog-world. My first "shitty draft" may sound vague to you but the upcoming ones are with the real issues I want people to know. Hope for a great one. 

P.S: This blog will have a few posts from eschoolsociety.blogspot.in, which had been my old blog.